The catalog every caregiver needs....

Need things that make your elders life easier?  There is a one-stop shopping location: Gold Violin.  They have all kinds of things  - from clothing to safety items to transport chairs with wheels - that make your elders life easier and safer.   I originally began looking for small items that would help mom continue to do things she always did - like can openers or door handles. As she aged we needed more specialized items like hand holds for tubs or chairs for a bathtub.   You'll find this and more  in this catalog.   I can't recommend it enough.  If nothing else you'll see what's out there and you can take it to your local pharmacy to see what they can help you find.

Note:  The link below is repaired after a kind reader let me know I used the wrong URL.  ;)

On line, you'll find them at this Gold Violin site or  www.goldviolin.com
There's also a toll free number if you wish to order a catalog:  877-648-8400
Where can i find products for my elderly arthritic mom?  where can i find products for arthritis? where can i find products for aging in place? where can i find bathtub aides? where can i find bathtub safety products? where can i find bathroom safety products 

Financial assistance for caregivers hard to come by...

Caring for elderly parents often means financial hardships and sacrifices for the elders and their families.  In my own sphere of the world I've spent more money than I can count on travel to help my parents. My husband put a new roof on his mother's home and bought appliances as her old ones gave out.   Friends have taken their parents into their homes, paid supplemental insurance premiums and prescriptions.  Now some purchase clothing, shoes, personal care items and goodies once their parents go on medicaide.  Medicaide permits the elder to keep between $30-50 per month for personal expenses but often it's not enough even for a little splurge.

I  read articles and questions/answers on Agingcare.com and just noticed that they have a special section specifically for care givers and finances.  See it here:  Aging Care, financial articles. Remember that financial resources for care givers are FEW, someone might find some assistance so I feel it's important to share.

Can I get paid for taking care of mom dad? Can i get paid for staying home with husband wife? Can daughter get paid for taking care of grandma grandpa grandmother grandfather? Will medicaide medicaid pay me to stay home with mother? will medicare pay me to stay at home with parent spouse? 

Caregiver study makes me say "Well, NO SH__!"

Listening to the radio the other day I heard a news article about a study that "revealed" (heavy dramatic sarcasm intended) that 30% of American's are acting as care givers for a family member.  The study of 2000 caregivers, called Caregiving in the US 2009, was conducted by the AARP with funding from the MetLife Foundation.    It revealed that care giving is - now I'm quoting Elinor Ginzler of the AARP here - "essentially a half time job."  Well NO SH__T!

The article further states: Many of the results of the survey are similar to those from earlier versions in 2004 and 1999. Two-thirds of caregivers are women. The average age is about 48. Almost all--86 percent--care for a relative. Most often, 36 percent of the time, it's for a parent. On average, caregivers have been providing care for 4.6 years, and three in ten report doing so for five years or more.
..and...

Ginzler says one of the biggest changes to show up in the survey this year is just how much caregiving can interfere with regular work. "Making accommodations in the workplace has increased in several ways," she says. "In most cases, two thirds of them, means they either go in late, leave early or take time off."

Again, all I can say is WELL NO SH__T!!  And I DO mean the SH__ word because I'm disgusted with studies like this and no other word expresses my disgust better than that.   Growing up it seemed that everyone I knew was involved in helping an elderly parent, grand parent, relative or neighbor.  It's just what you DID - it's what you DO because it's the RIGHT thing to do.  Why do we need studies to prove it?  Don't these decision makers look around at their own families and those of their employees?

I'm sure this study is well intended.  I know that the AARP and MetLife want to track trends, but if you got the same results in 1999 and 2004 - please DO SOMETHING PRACTICAL TO HELP!   Here are a few ideas:

• Give them half or full pay for hours worked on programs to repair homes of elderly residents or to install ramps, tubs, counters, - any repair or remodel that helps people age in place.
• Encourage employers to look at the WHOLE value of an employee and NOT penalize them with lower wages for flex time. 
  
• Pay for respite care so your care-giving employees can have a day off away from work AND family responsibilities
• Give tax credits to people who work to keep their parents OUT of nursing homes, the requirement to provide 50% of their support is too high too meet given social security and pension incomes
• Sponsor care giver clinics to help people understand the legal issues that might come up when helping elderly parents and to identify what type of help is available to their parent/relative/neighbor

I spent the better part of my 30's returning to northern Idaho to help my own parents and I'm paying for it now in lower retirement savings.   I took jobs that permitted some flexibility so that I could travel often. It meant that, while my overall contribution to my employer was great, I got paid less, got a lot of the "crap work" and wasn't considered for promotions because I needed the flexibility.   I was in a bad spot and, more than once, my employer took advantage of it.   I've also had a couple of GREAT and supportive employers, I'll cover that instance in my next post but for the most part, mine and friend's experiences have been bad.

As our representatives in the US House and Senate fight over health care, I hope that they will be wise enough to look at the WHOLE picture and give some relief to those of us who just do the right thing.  I hope they would encourage companies to do things like this rather than listen to the insurance industry hacks who are worried about enrolling young, healthy people at the highest rate possible.   Most of us work for other people on their schedules.  In between those work hours, we raise kids, we clean, we cook, we help our families and each other.  We deserve a break!

To find the radio segment or read the article follow this link to National Public Radio (NPR):

http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2009/12/caring_for_elderly_and_disable.html.