What do I want: I want some practical ideas to make my Mom's environment safer and easier for her. I need ideas on where to look for assistance for her. I want to know if my feelings are normal and what others are feeling as they go through the same things. By blogging I hope to create a space where others can learn from my experiences and where we can share ideas and insights about helping elderly parents in a way that maintains their dignity and retains a sense of loving family.
Some back ground on me and my situation:
- I'm a 47 married woman, born in 1962 to parents who were in their early 40's.
- I have no kids but am close to my family - nieces, nephews, brothers, cousins.
- Our family is greatly influenced by our Italian background. We were raised with a sense of obligation to family; something that is both a blessing and a curse.
- As youngest, the only girl and definitely the most reliable, I always knew helping my parents would fall to me.
- My father died 13 years ago at age 76 from cancer and Mom was his primary care giver.
- Mom is now 88, epileptic, slow and stiff from advancing arthritis but sharp in mind and spirit.
- She has no other health issues like diabetes that cause problems for her.
- She lives in her own home, with modifications, but it is clear she must move soon.